Founded in 1990, "SOS PAPA" french Group, with its 1.000 new members/year is the largest and most influential association of fathers in France.

It has inspired creation of SOS PAPA Uruguay, or SOS PAPA Spain, Switzerland, and so and... and number of worlwide "sospapa.x" or "sos-papa.x" forms web sites

It received in its offices in 2003 more than 4000 fathers who were listened to, assisted and advised.

"Association SOS PAPA 78", based in west suburb of PARIS, at the historical central office, is the most important structure of SOS PAPA. It received more than 1500 fathers and done near 400 new members in 2003.
His budget is of more than 50.000 Euros per year, drawn exclusively from membership subscriptions. It is entirely independent of those professionally involved in divorce and of political parties.
The national central office of "SOS PAPA" is lodged by "SOS PAPA 78 ".

SOS PAPA is active in France and has 20 regional delegations in the Country.
It has numerous correspondents outside France: USA, Japan, Europe.

Anny Duperey, actress,
sponsor of SOS PAPA.

Michel Thizon,
foundator of SOS Papa

  • SOS PAPA organised the first demonstrations of fathers in France.
  • SOS PAPA has participated in more than 100 television programmes (also Japanese, Korean,...) and obtained more than 1500 articles in the press in 12 years.
  • SOS PAPA carries out specialised and in-depth studies.
  • SOS PAPA presented 6 candidates in Paris with its own label for the parliamentary elections of 1997. This had been done nowhere else.


Association  SOS PAPA 78  - Central office

34, rue du Président Wilson
B.P. 49
(F) 78231  LE PECQ Cedex
Tél. +33        Fax +33


Parent-child love is more long-lasting than love between men and women. Adults often divorce because their love wears away. A child on the contrary does not divorce from parents.

The family which was formed is not dissolved, it is not blown away, its members have simply separated since it is a fact that " it’s the child who builds the family ".
Love between men and women can fade away and burn out. Sometimes it may even be cruel but the consequen- ces are rarely truly dramatic. it’s part of life.

Much more cruel, stupid and gravely damaging is the destruction of the connection of the child with the " other " parent, the one who is excluded when the family breaks down by absurd social and judicial practice, whose conception of family is entirely economic or gender-based, preferring one to the other, in breach of the Rights of Children, ignoring vital psychological and emotional needs of the child, gravely upsetting his or her balance and social future.

Disregard for the love of a child for either of his or her parents cannot be without influence for the future of society as a whole which these millions of children will form in the next generation.



The judicial structures and practices have amply shown their inability to handle parental separation in the true interests of the children. and according to the fundamental rights of fathers and mothers. The " reconciliation attempts " procedures as prescribed by law has completely disappeared in practice. Conflicts becoming more acute instead of this opportunity being seized to explore all possibility of agreement for the children’s’ welfare.

- The practice of closed " in camera " hearings; the judges overloaded with cases, whose power is practically absolute with decisions impossible to monitor; the imprecision of the laws; these are all factors which militate against a guarantee of equity in the family justice rendered " in the name of the People of France ".
- Associate with each Judge of Family Affairs (JAF) lay-people, possibly to be elected, parents who will guarantee certain defined family principles, who will take on the interviews, the audition of children, the conciliatory meetings, the follow-up of situations of conflict and of everything concerning child well-being and parental rights. They will assist the GAF during hearings and represent family feeling and democratic monitoring.
- Publish monthly statistics for each judge regarding assignment of residence of the children, exercise of parental authority and the rights accorded.
- Make judges civilly responsible for their decisions (cf. Declaration of the President of the Republic, as the counterpart of judges independent status.
- Obligatory reconciliation meetings between parents where there are conflicts concerning children and the creation of centres for information and preparation for divorce.
- Encouragement, as opposed to " judicial warfare ", of " divorce by agreement " (joint applications, real and successful conciliation...) at lower cost and without obligatory recourse to a lawyer as at present. The legal advisers (attorneys, notaries) will remain necessary for material aspects and the dividing-up of property if any.

At present, in the name of " the interest of the child ", diametrically opposite judgements can be rendered in identical cases. The only available definition is in reality the text of the International Convention on Children’s’ Rights considered in its totality. The notion of " exercise of parental authority " remains undefined and no penal measure is available against deliberate and repeated breach of this principle. This means that the parent with whom, by judge’s assignment, the child principally residences habitually takes all decisions with absolutely no consultation of the other parent, rendering very illusory in practice this " parental authority " which in itself is an archaic term.

- Legislate for a sufficiently clear and precise definition of what is involved in the notion of the interest of the child, in particular in the case of parental separation seperation which is where a precise interpretation is most often needed.
- Replace the expression " parental authority " with " parental responsibility " in the texts.
- Define the concepts and the practical rights involved in the possession of " parental authority ".
- Define penal or other measures against the breach of the principle of parental authority by one parent, to the detriment of the rights of the other parent.
- Restitution of the right to exercise parental authority to the 500 000 parents (including 30 000 mothers) who are still deprived of it because divorced before the law of January 8 th, 1993.

The child, who should remain a symbol of life and of love, is increasingly instrumentalised in our society of divorce and controlled maternity. He or she is too often an economic shield or source of income and even the object of a need for possession or to assert oneself, without consideration of the child’s rights as a person.

- Penal prosecution of the parent who cuts off the child from the other parent, before any legal decision, so as to create a de facto situation leading to interruption of the child-parent relationship which can last for months.
- Systematic proposal by the courts of the transfer of the child’s principal residence to the other parent if cases of non-presentation of the child occur on the part of the parent first having that entitlement.
- Real judicial prosecution for non-presentation of children and with the same severity as for the non-payment of maintenance which, on the basis of a given number of cases, leads to 15 times more convictions.
- Systematic reassessment of the assignment of principal residence when the " guardian " parent has moved or arranged placement of the child without necessity at a distance which is an obstacle to visits by the access of the " non-guardian " parent.
- Travelling costs for exchange of children (holidays, week-ends) to be paid by the parent who has voluntarily removed the child from the initial place of residence.

While a third of births are now outside marriage several categories of children with differing entitlements according to their condition of birth were introduced by the Senate, under the influence of the attorney and senator Dreyfuss-Schmidt, at the time of adoption of the law of January 8 th, 1993 (criteria concerning cohabitation with the mother for the un-married father, requirement to apply to the courts for a simple certificate of cohabitation which does not really confer " parental authority "). When separations occur in conflict un-married fathers find themselves with no established rights and immediately lose contact with the child.

- Automatic and legally recognised exercise of " parental authority " for every, married or not, having legally recognised a child. Any withdrawal of this authority to be based on specified reasons and to require a court decision.
(done in law : march 2002)
- In the case of children of " unknown fathers " forceful incitement of the mothers, even an obligation, to designate the presumptive father or fathers and launch of genetic procedures by the authorities.
- Recognition of the right of a child to be informed of his or her origins. Abolition of the existing entitlement of mothers to have their names unrecorded when giving birth since the procedures for abandonment of rights and obligations and for adoption are sufficient to meet every particular situation. Option for the father agree to raise the child.

" Good " parents but who are non " guardian " suffer from objectively discriminatory treatment on state health insurance, state children’s allowances and tax payment: although they lodge, feed and take care of their children, often more than 100 days a year, they receive the same treatment as childless bachelors of the same revenue " bad " parents who never exercise their rights to feed and lodge their children.

- Extension of a " non-guardian " parents state health insurance cover to the child so that the parent can be sure of refund when the child is treated at weekends or during holidays in his or her care.
- Attribution of a part of the state children’s allowances to parents who lodge and feed a child more than 60 days a year.
- Attribution of a share in family tax reduction entitlement to parents who lodge and feed a child more than 60 days a year.

When some children are assigned to one and others to the second parent large family status and increased allowances no longer apply. The Children’s Allowances Administration avails of this opportunity to reduce the overall sum to be paid.

- Overall payment level to be maintained when some children are assigned to one and others to the second parent.

The conditions for psychological and emotional balance of children are not taken adequately into consideration. Viewpoints are often outdated. In this way an old decision of the Supreme Court of Appeal (" Court de Cassation ") blocks the possibility of alternate " guardianship " which in certain circumstances are excellent solutions.

- Introduce into law the possibility of programmed periods of residence with variable alternance frequency according to the children’s age (short periods for very young children).(done in law : march 2002)

The levels of maintenance payments are determined in a purely arbitrary fashion and left to the sole appreciation of the judge.

- Furthermore sudden loss of revenues (loss of employment...) leave the parent who pays confronted with impossible financial obligations during the months required for the revision procedure.
- Backdating of reductions in maintenance for sudden loss in revenue and a significant speed-up of the procedures for these situations.
- Drafting of official guidelines for determining maintenance payment levels using variable data and promoting a more objective appreciation of every sort of situation.

The " meeting-points " which could have served as instruments to promote mediation and communication between hostile parents when exchanging children have quickly changed to tools of psychological power and anti-father repression.

- Prohibition of the placement under psychological surveillance in a " meeting point ", and against his or her will, of a parent who has been the object of no conviction or indictment.
- Closure of " meeting points "  which cannot lodge parents who have to travel to come there, which do not allow outings or which limit visits to 2 or 3 hours. They should be replaced by provision of a service which accompanies children from their homes and back again.

Communication between Family affairs Judges and the Public Prosecution Office and systematic indictment of anyone who has given false testimony or made false accusations with a view to limiting a parent’s visiting rights. The habits of most courts are out-dated where the definition of visiting rights is concerned: every second week-end and half of the holidays.

- Introduce systematically in the judicial decisions the conditions of telephone contact between the children and the parent who is excluded from their daily lives.
- Introduce systematically in the judicial decisions the visiting and lodging rights on Wednesdays, public holidays and holiday " long week-ends "
(translator’s note: French children have no school or shorter hours on Wednesdays).